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some legends are told some turn to dust or to gold
more impressive bubbles have been blown, but not on this stoop
Welcome to the yard, but first… a riddle..
The crucial difference between the two sweetest guys in the world
I see your shifting gaze, that disgusted glance. I know you’re questioning my parenting from across the elementary school assembly.
Let me tell you a little story about the kindergarten student with bright purple hair, my little Raven Marie…
A month before school started she decided to play hair stylist with the craft scissors, and to save what was left I had to opt for a pixie cut. She was absolutely devastated. It was about three hours before she stopped her harsh sobbing and hiccups.
She has thought that the length of a girls hair was what made her “girly”. I know I’ve personally had many hairstyles around her before, including a purple mohawk, which many people criticized as not being “girly” enough. Media, other children, other parents, and society made it worse. She would randomly burst in tears while out in public for the first week of her new style, screaming that she looked like a boy. That everyone would think she’s a boy.
At one point she took off her bow in her hair, threw it at a cashier and screamed, “I DON’T NEED THIS BOW TO TELL YOU THAT I’M NOT A BOY, BECAUSE I’M NOT”
Proudly stomping away in her blue jean overalls, head held high.
Once we edged closer to the first day of school she kept asking questions like, “Do you think the other kids will like me? Do you think they’ll be my friend? Will they think I’m a boy? Will they pick on me because I have boy hair?”
So I went to the grocery store, bought some dye, and spent the whole night transforming my bright blonde little girl into a plum punk rock fairy. I then assured her that if any of the kids didn’t like her, they were just jealous.
As for you, mothers and teachers with the wandering eyes filled with disgust and judgement, I’m in the business of raising a free spirit.
Here’s to you, Raven Marie. I love you.
You might think you are so radical and oh such a great parent for teaching your kid to be a nonconformist but all you are doing is limiting your child’s potential and brainwashing it.
Take it from an educator : kids need conformity, they need to fit in, they need to belong. Why do you think some get bullied and others don’t? At a young age our minds work on a semi primitive level. The group keeps us safe, are friends are those who are like us, we are different because our group is different. Those that stand out get bullied, get cast aside. You are setting up your kid to be judged and ridiculed.
Furthermore you teach her liberalism, feminism and other political non sense that matters to you but has no business polluting a child’s mind. Kids MUST discover things themselves, you as a parent have the OBLIGATION to take care of your kid and that includes giving them COMPLETE FREEDOM OF CHOICE. If your girl wants to fit in, to have long locks and be a house wife one day then you let her do that.
You DO NOT preach feminism to a kindergarten kid. You DO NOT push your agenda on an impressionable mind. You DO NOT set up your kid to be the school’s freak.
In other words, you are a bully to your own child. You are unfit to have a kid simply because you fail to understand basic human behavior. You know close to nothing about a child’s education and frankly the one that needs to go back to kindergarten is you.
No, children do not need conformity, children need to be taught that it’s okay to be different. It’s okay to be yourself. Bullying happens because bigoted fucks think its okay to teach their children to make fun of people for being different. It’s not just the kid with the strange colored hair(which was me), or the fag (also me), it’s the kids with the physical deformities, and handicaps.
One of my best friends in high school was named Harry. Harry was a kid who was mentally and physically handicapped. A lot of kids liked to pick on him, and make fun of him because he wasn’t fully functioning like the rest of us. I didn’t see him as any different, because my parents, my family, brought me up to be nice to everyone, and to accept everyone for who they are.
What you teach to your children stays with them their entire fucking lives. Having a parent, or teacher, or anyone else to look up to, who finds it necessary to bully another human being has no right dealing with children in any manner. It’s people like you, who think that everyone needs to be the same, everyone needs to conform, that is bringing this world down, and making it harder for the rest of us to survive.
One thing you should definitely know, is no, I’m not a parent, but I know god damned well that bullying is wrong. I know full well that parents should bring their children up to be themselves, and to accept others. I don’t give a fuck what your profession is, and whether or not you’re unable to bare children upon this world, you have no right to say that a child should be made to conform. No, you should never push your own personal agenda on a child, but that goes for anything. Religion, ideals, political standpoints, none of that should be pushed on a child. Yes, educate them, teach them what you believe they should know, but never force your thoughts, your perceptions, your agenda in to the mind of an impressionable child.
These are the rules in our house.
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If ur feeling small today I dare you to sit up straighter, look someone who scares u directly in the eye, take up room at the dinner table, make yourself bigger, when ‘sorry’ laps at the back of your tongue, tries to pick up after you, remind yourself that your existence doesn’t demand an apology, that you are allowed to make mess and take up space, do not be afraid to expand. Every single goddamn minute. Expand, expand, expand
i needed this today